Love Note: Phantom Social Media Foes.

   

I haven't written a "Love Note" article in awhile. What I'm going to address is something different from what I usually write about. I have noticed a trend on social media where people are always using memes to throw shade or making posts out of nowhere directed at their "enemies" or so called "haters". I've seen people direct posts at their ex who may or may not care about what that person is doing or with whom. I feel that majority of the time some of these posts are actually fake, directed at some phantom person. I also believe that people create these illusions of conflicts so that their mentions can filled with retweets and there instagram and Facebook pages can be filled with likes and comments on why the post is the "realest thing ever". In other words, some people can't go a day without having some level of drama in their life so they use social media to create drama where it does not exist. Isn't that sad?  I would really like to see an end to all the social media fake battles/drama. So I challenge all the guilty parties out there, the next time you feel like posting something that has nothing to do with your reality ask yourself these three questions:

1. Why is it so important to have people on my time line believe that I just have more enemies than everyone else?

2. If I really do have enemies that I'm making these posts for and about why are these people still my social media friends and if they are not then why am I about to waste time making this post ?

3. If I am having issues with a family member, an ex girl or boyfriend or a friend, why can't I have a one on one conversation with the individual instead of airing the problem on social media and throwing "shade" at the person?

If you can't find some good answers to these three simple questions it means that you are about to post some fake sh*t or you are just crazy looking for attention. The next time you feel like making a post directed towards an individual who may or may not be hating on you for what you supposedly have or the life you are currently living why not post instead:

1. The good things actually happening  in your life. That will get you the same amount of likes as a fake post about made up haters.

2. Post a thank you or a message of appreciation to all the good people in your circle who are always lifting you up. That too will keep your your timeline active with likes and comments if that's what you really want.

3. Make your status a motivational quote for those who may be in need of a message of hope to help them get through the day. You can find positive and empowering memes online too.

4. Inbox the person who you are having issues with and seek to find a resolution in private. You don't need to always put those you are having conflict with on blast.

5. If some one has a problem with you for no real reason you need not waste a moment of your precious time paying attention to what does not bring value to your life. If you have haters it means you are doing something right. Side bar: sometimes it means you are doing something wrong too but either way people are going to talk so let them talk.

People, life is way too short to keep dwelling on negative things and negative people. So what if no one likes your pictures, so what if your ex is stalking all your social media accounts? Seek not to be messy seek not to waste your energy on trivial matters. Live a clean life online and off line.

Thank you for reading.
Love: Yasheka.